(A Proven Path Forward That Actually Works)
Dear Struggling Partner,
If you're reading this at night, unable to sleep... constantly checking your phone (or your partner’s phone)... fighting waves of anxiety...replaying conversations in your head... wondering if you’ll ever feel safe again… I want you to know this:
You're not crazy. You’re not overreacting. And you’re not alone.
What you're experiencing has a name: betrayal trauma. And as a trauma specialist, I can tell you - it's literally rewiring your nervous system.
Those racing thoughts? The constant vigilance? The inability to trust your own judgment? These are normal responses to abnormal betrayal.
Here's what most therapists won't tell you:
Individual healing isn't enough. Through years of research and working with thousands of couples, I've discovered you need a couple-centered approach based on neuroscience and attachment theory.
This isn't just professional for me - it's personal. Having walked my own journey of transformation, I understand the weight of relational pain... and the power of choosing connection over fear.
That's why I wrote "Breaking Barriers, Building Bridges" - which reveals a science-backed system that helps couples heal TOGETHER after betrayal.
"We now know we can not just heal together but thrive together.
This course has given us the roadmap we desperately needed."
-Anonymous
Why Traditional Therapy Leaves So Many Couples Stuck (and the groundbreaking approach that finally breaks through)
The Couple-Centered Recovery® Model: Your step-by-step roadmap from crisis to connection
Why betrayal is a relational trauma – and how to heal at the nervous system level
Beyond "Just Get Over It": How both partners can move from shame and defensiveness to real healing
The Science of Secure Love: Understanding your attachment system so you can rebuild unshakeable trust
Your Personal Trigger Toolkit: Practical ways to manage overwhelming emotions and stay grounded
The Art of Healing Conversations: How to finally talk about the hard things without falling apart
Intimacy After Betrayal: Gentle exercises to rebuild physical and emotional connection (at your own pace)
Your New Love Story: Creating a future even stronger than your past (yes, it's possible)
We now know we can not just heal together but thrive together. This course has given us the roadmap we desperately needed.
It helped validate my feelings, as always. I feel seen and understood in ways I haven’t before.
I have struggled with lying in the past, and I thought I was just broken. Now I understand why I did it and how to rebuild trust the right way.
Simply hearing my wife's anger about how the gaslighting impacted her helped me shift my perspective. I’m finally learning how to hold space for her pain.
This program helped me recognize that setting boundaries isn’t about pushing my partner away—it’s about protecting our connection and rebuilding trust.
My husband said he felt like you were talking directly to him. I had tried to address many of those things before, but they always seemed to land on 'deaf ears.' Now, he’s actually listening.
I had a new awareness regarding my acting-out dreams that happened right after my polygraph test. Now it makes sense why they happened—and I finally feel like I can address them.
I'm not crazy! (Although I've felt like it many times.) This program helped me understand my trauma in a way that makes sense.
I was able to implement a boundary today without getting too dysregulated. I became very sad, but I was able to bring myself back to a regulated state quickly.
We are still learning and growing in our ability to talk things over and work through issues as they come up. These sessions always give us something to reflect on and apply.
My husband sincerely apologized for the first time and acknowledged how the imbalance in our needs has impacted our relationship. That is a major breakthrough.
We now have language to express what we feel and co-regulate instead of shutting down or going into shame. We are finally working as a team.
We have tools and ways of processing things that once felt impossible. I never imagined we could rebuild our intimacy and trust the way we are now.
This session helped me see how my childhood wounds are still affecting my relationship today. Now, I know where to focus my healing work.
I am learning to ask for and take what I need in my relationship instead of waiting for it to be offered. This has been a huge shift for me.
My wife and I had a long, emotional, and productive talk last night. I don’t think we would have been able to do that without the tools we’ve learned here.
I realized that I need to do healing work just as much as my partner does. This process is changing both of us in ways I never expected.
I am reclaiming my sense of self after years of over-functioning in my marriage. This program is helping me see my own needs and voice them with confidence.
If this book doesn't provide the clearest path forward you've ever seen for healing after betrayal, simply let us know within 30 days and we'll refund your shipping cost.
Keep the book as our gift - no questions asked, no awkward conversations.
Dr. Jake Porter is a leader in the field of betrayal trauma recovery, attachment science, and relational neuroscience.
As the creator of the Couple-Centered Recovery® (CCR) Model and founder of Daring Ventures, he has guided thousands of couples through the complex process of healing from infidelity, addiction, and deep relational wounds.
With advanced certifications in trauma therapy, research in human development, and a background in pastoral counseling, Dr. Jake has spent years bridging the gap between neuroscience, psychology, and real-world relational healing.
His work integrates cutting-edge research with a deeply compassionate, human approach—helping couples move from crisis to connection, from despair to renewed intimacy.
But this isn’t just professional for Dr. Jake—it’s deeply personal. Having walked his own journey of transformation, he understands firsthand the weight of relational pain and the power of choosing connection over fear. His expertise is not just clinical; it’s lived.
Dr. Jake has trained therapists, coaches, and leaders worldwide in his groundbreaking approach to relationship restoration. He is also a sought-after voice in podcasts, conferences, and media, helping individuals and couples break free from destructive cycles and reclaim secure, fulfilling relationships.
Whether in one-on-one intensives, workshops, or online programs, Dr. Jake’s mission is clear: To equip couples with the tools to heal, reconnect, and build something stronger than ever before.
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